I came across Katy Seppi only few days ago, I listened to a talk where she participated. I enjoyed listening to her and the others so much! I learnt that Katy is organizing Childless collective summit that starts today.
More info:
https://www.chasingcreation.org/
I am looking forward to it a lot!!
In my country we believe in healing powers of dandelion. Picking up dandelion is a national hobby every spring.
As I have written before, the only positive side of pandemic for me is having time. I love having time for picking the dandelion, cleaning it and then making a tasty salad. It is delicious is warm potatoes and eggs. I add also salt, good olive oil and vinegar. Bon appetit :)
Did any of you watched House M.D. and absolutely loved it? (I watched all the seasons and loved it!).
I got as part of homework for my Italian lessons to watch the Italian TV series DOC - Nelle tue mani:
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt11876490/
I watched it and it is brilliant, I loved it as much as House M.D. It was also great to listen to beautiful Italian!
I listened to Jody Day's "Childless Elderwomen" conversations. Both are just brilliant and I am already looking forward to the next one:
https://gateway-women.com/childless-elderwomen/
There are many parts that touched me, this is one of those:
"Going back to those women in their thirties and forties - that’s one of the things I would say to them is because it blindsided me, and many of the women that are in my online community. We talk about it and write about it all the time. This is my own theory and okay, maybe this'll be part of my 500 words - about ‘getting your girlfriends back’ - when their children go off to college, suddenly they have time for you again, they have a little bit of free money to go to the movies again.
You get your girlfriends back and then, just as you settle into that comfort, the grandchildren arrive and you lose them all over again. The difference is that now you're in your forties and you didn't see it coming, and you can offer, “Oh, I'll go with you with your grandchildren,” but it's exactly like it was in your thirties, you just got more grey hair - they don't really want you around, the grandchildren came. And when you do get your girlfriend alone, all she wants to talk about are the grandchildren.
That's one of the things I am going to say real quick again about our conferences at The NotMom summits - women kept saying to me that they never realized that in their private real lives at home, when another woman would pull out their wallet, they would sort of cringe up because they’d anticipate being shown their kids or their grandkids. But for those three days, people were whipping out their wallets or their phones and were showing pictures of their gardens and their dogs and their cats!
It really showed all of us that much like ... I'm sorry, I think it was Jackie said, is that once you find other people who are more like you, you can put your shoulders back down and feel not just accepted, but seen. .Because without grandchildren, and since we are heading to a place where grey hair makes you invisible. Now you get with your girlfriends and you're invisible again because you don't have any little people to show pictures of."
by Karen Malone Wright
What I loved the most is the energy, love, wisdom, joy and humour that the women had. I do hope I will be as cool in 20 years!
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I decided that from now on most of my posts will be accompanied by a photo that I took lately. My husband's dog wasn't sure what I was doing, so this is his contribution to taking photo :)
I can't wait to read the latest Rupi Kaur's book: Home Body. She is so young and so talented. I wish I could write as she does!
So far I've read only few quotes and I love them.
Some of her quotes:
“i am trusting the uncertainty
and believing i will
end up somewhere
right and good”
―
Home Body
“you didn’t lose it happiness has always been here - you just lost perspective”
―
Home Body
“i get so lost
in where i want to go
i forget that the place i’m in
is already quite magical”
―
Home Body
“my mind keeps running off to dark corners and coming back with reasons for why i am not enough”
―
Home Body
“you lose everything
when you don't love yourself
- and gain everything when you do”
―
Home Body
I went for a long walk through the forest yesterday. I really love walking! I took this photo, I adore the very first spring flowers.
I was thinking how therapeutic it was for me writing my blog. I have been writing it for 9 years, so far I have written 947 posts.
I would like to thank you, my dear readers, for reading my blog. Without you I would have stopped writing years ago.
There are many posts that meant a lot to me. This is my favourite post, I wrote it 6 years ago:
https://thenext15000days.blogspot.com/2015/03/i-can-see-that-you-dont-have-children.html
I don't know what touched me the most. Perhaps that a complete stranger saw the longing in my eyes. He got me and many people whom I have known for ages never had.
While thinking about this dinner, I remembered that he wrote me few weeks ago but I forgot to return the text. So I called him yesterday when walking. He was happy to hear me and we had a nice chat .... he was alone walking as well. Perhaps I can be for him a bit of a daughter he never had.
There is only one advantage of the pandemic: having time (I am still not working).
I was raking the lawn when I saw this beautiful little daisy. It is so pretty! I love having time to stop working for a while and just admire it.
And I love having time for learning different things. I recently joined an online French course. I love it, we have a really good teacher. We practiced conversation and the question was: "What is your favourite moment of the week?". I loved the answer of a fellow student, a decade older then me. She replied: "I love the moment when I wake up in the morning and I see that I am alive and well and that there is another day in front of me."
I just love her attitude to life!
I wanted to learn more about NLP techniques so I attended a webinar. The coach told us many stories that I liked. I loved how he compared a life with cooking & a fridge. He said that when you cook, you shouldn't focus on the ingredients that are missing. You have to focus on the ingredients that you have and cook the best possible meal out of it.
I borrowed one of coach's books and I liked it at first. But then I got to the following story.
There was a couple who was trying to have a child for 20 years. They went to a clinic and said to themselves that this was their last try. The doctor didn't believe that they would succeed and this helped them give away all the pressure and they trusted the miracle to the safe hands of God, universe, nature. And they succeeded. They got beautiful healthy baby boy.
Come on!?
We were trying for a child for a decade. We had 10 failed IVFs. I still remember the horrible pressure, when we decided for the last try.
The NLP coach's story can be written only by someone who has vivid imagination and absolutely no experiences with the infertility.
Needless to say, I put the book down. I am done with NLP techniques for now :)
