I have the same Christmas wish as the last six years.
I would love to get an email from you.
To learn who you are.
Where you come from.
Why you read my blog.
What my blog means to you.
Did it help in any way?
I promise I will not publish your emails, nor misuse them in any way.
And I promise I will write back :)
My email: klara.soncek (at) gmail.com
I am looking forward to Christmas :)
PS: I took this photo in the city center of our capital - Ljubljana - few years ago.
Saturday, December 4, 2021
I have the same Christmas wish as the last six years.
I listened to a radio interview with a wise man and he said that life is busy and short and we have to take a bit of time for the things we love doing.
So I followed this advice and took a day off work and went swimming to the swimming pool. I love swimming so much and it felt just great to swim for the first time since the summer. I can feel that my spine is relaxed, I love this feeling!
And I visited my favourite lake - Lake Bohinj (it is in the middle of Triglav National Park).
Wednesday, December 1, 2021
There is a girl in her mid 30s. We used to spend a lot of time together working on job projects. Years ago I briefly told her about my IVF journey.
Long story short: for the first time after the pandemic we spent some time together again - me, her and 10 other colleagues.
It turned out that she told every single one of the colleagues about her infertility treatments. They were extra kind to her and also very kind when they talked about her. They all wish her all the best and so do I.
But the interesting thing is that she didn't want to discuss infertility with me. And I was actually the only person in the group who has experiences with infertility.
But I don't blame her. I know.
At first I thought I was like a bad luck to her. Or a bad omen.
But no. She is very early into her infertility journey. She isn't ready to hear that there are people who went through ALL possible infertility treatments and it didn't help.
I like her.
I really wish her all the best. And I wish she never has to find out about the stories like mine or yours.
But if she needs to find about our stories one day... all she needs is to google and she will find us :)
Friday, November 26, 2021
I have already got the third dose of the vaccine against covid19. I am glad that I live in a country where the vaccine is available.
I was upset that my granny (she is almost 90) was already 8 months after the second dose of the vaccine and nobody really bothered whether she gets the third vaccine or not. For me it was really important that she gets the vaccine (the hospitals are full so I strongly believe that each of us has to do everything to prevent putting an extra burden to the hospitals).
Long story short: I persuaded granny that she takes the vaccine and I am glad she got the vaccine yesterday.
But what bugs me is what my uncle told my mom. He commented that I am sticking my nose into the things that are not my business just because I don't have life of my own.
Come on? Really? I don't have a life of my own? Just because I am childless, I don't have life of my own?
The other thing that bugs me is why mom had to tell me his comment?
It is not only what my uncle said. It is actually what many people think (just don't say it loudly and directly).
His comment hurts.
But I refuse to believe his comment.
I do have a life.
It is not a typical life.
But it is mine.
It is the only life I will ever have.
I love it.
It is mine.
It is quiet, peaceful and at the same time full of life.
It is mine.
And I don't allow anybody to judge it.
Sunday, November 21, 2021
I have just finished reading an excellent book: Bill Bryson's The Body. I have learnt a lot just by reading it.
I came across this quote:
“I’ve said it before in another book, but I believe it’s worth
repeating: the only thing special about the elements that make you is
that they make you. That is the miracle of life.”
― Bill Bryson, The Body
Sunday, October 31, 2021
I went for a drink with some friends. It was a nice evening, we were listening to a concert of a local band.
I noticed that also the father of the two members was listening to the concert. While listening to the concert I observed the father, he is already in his late 70s. I know him - during the student years he and his wife stopped many times and drove me to university or back while I was hitchhiking. They were always very kind to me.
His face was shining - he looked so proud and happy when listening to his two sons. His eyes were full of love. He looked like someone who has everything that matters - right there in that moment.
Observing this intimate moment didn't make me sad. I know I will never have exactly that. But I refused to compare my life to any other life. I refuse to do injustice to my life.
I am attaching a photo that I do today on our walk with my husband and our dog. I love warm autumn colours. I love walking through our beautiful forests so much.
Thursday, October 28, 2021
I have been thinking a lot lately - who are people that deserve my kindness and my time?
I thought of the very first blog post that I wrote 11 years ago:
I remember suffocating feeling when I was with my girlfriends. I had the feeling that their lives are picture perfect, they are all blessed with two children.
I just couldn't attend our usual Friday evening coffee dates any more. My sadness (and looking back - I know that now, I didn't know then - my depression) didn't fit into the lives of happy young mothers. I understand that.
But I don't understand how easily 3 girl-friends abandoned me when I sent them an email explaining that I can't attend our Friday dates any more since it was too heartbreaking for me.
(Ony one of the friends stayed and supported me through the darkest times, I will be forever grateful. I would literally do anything for her).
Back then I was so sure that all others have picture perfect lives but me. I was very wrong.
One of the friends who left got terrible autoimmune incurable disease. She hasn't been able to walk for the last two years any more.
I recently came back to this group of friends, but mainly to meet couple of times a year with the ill friend who really needs us.
I forgave her (and the others). But I didn't forget (and I never will) - how easily I was abandoned when I was in need.
I haven't come to any conclusion yet.
But this is always in my mind - who deserves my kindness and my time?
I may be childless and I may have some bit of extra available time. But this doesn't mean I don't have the right to choose how I spend my precious time.