Saturday, December 16, 2017

My Christmas wish

I have the same Christmas wish as the last year and the year before.
I would love to get an email from you.
To learn who you are. 
Where you come from.
Why you read my blog.
What my blog means to you. 

I promise I will not publish your emails, nor misuse them in any way.

My email: klara.soncek (at)

I am looking forward to Christmas :)
I loved receiving emails last December from literally all around the world!  

PS: on the photo: our capital, Ljubljana, with Christmas lights. It is very pretty! Photo was taken few days ago when having mulled wine (=tradition here) with coworkers.

Friday, December 15, 2017


Since I try to save as much money as possible for "our little house" project, this year my husband and I didn't spend a lot for our holidays. The only overnight stays that we paid were 2 nights while cycling in Austria.

And yet, I am fortunate to have a job where I can travel often. I have just returned from Italy. Italy in December with all the Christmas lights is just beautiful! 

I have been doing really well this December. Not that many years ago, when in the darkest years of my infertility, I really suffered in December. Now I am getting my life back which means I am enjoying December.

There are moments that hurt (and there always will be).  Like feeling trapped in work lunch where all women are in the age group 30 - 45 and all they can talk is about their children's school and homeworks. Not long ago I would be depressed for days after.

Now I just thought it is sad for them if they are not capable of any other theme than this.

Me for example:
- I don't even mention my beloved Wolf to people who are dogless :)
- I don't talk about my husband, about beautiful things we did together previous weekend to my girlfriends who are single
- I don't talk about nice afternoon that I spent with my brother to a friend whose brother passed away or to a friend who lost her brother because of possessive sister-in-low
- I don't talk about beautiful gardening days that I spent in summer with my mom to friends whose mothers sadly passed away
- I don't talk about my plans to travel to a) Paris and Normandy and Provance and b) New Zealand as soon as the house is built and at least partly paid off  to friends who earn very little and can't ever afford any holidays
- I don't talk about my sport projects to a friend who has multiple sclerosis and who hardly walks
- ....

If infertility didn't come to my life, I would probably be the same as most people. But now I am not. I am glad to have this feeling what to say (or not to say) to people. I like to be compassionate. But sometimes it makes me angry - why can't the rest of the world be compassionate with me?  

Saturday, December 9, 2017

After many years of waiting, I have wonderful news!!!

We got a building permit!!!
We are very very happy :)

There are many things I am looking forward to. Most of all is having more spacious living room & a guest bedroom. The first overseas friends have already booked their stay for 2019 :)

Thursday, December 7, 2017

A granny

I just love this FB find. So, I plan to be a Granny one day :)

For now I am only an awesome auntie. Few days ago I took five nieces and nephews (aged from 4 to 10) with train to the capital (kids love train rides) and took them to museum of natural history. The mission there was to see the mammoth skeleton and touch its tooth.

Then  we visited the national gallery. The kids had a mission to ask someone working there where is one particular painting is and then find it (=a painting of a famous painter who lived in our town 100 years ago). We did find it.

On the way there one of the kids noticed this painting and asked me why why the baby was lying on the floor. Then all the kids started to ask me this question. So I said to them to sit on the floor, in front of the painting and I told them the story about the judgement of Solomon. The kids really listened.  I loved that moment, it was just priceless.

Then, before going home I showed the kids also this painting that I love so much:

The title of the painting is "Kofetarica" which in our language means "a lady who loves drinking coffee".  I asked the kids how does this lady look like. And they used great adjectives: happy, smiling, content. Then I asked them why was she happy. They thought for a while and then a boy, aged 5 replied: "Because she doesn't have kids." It was such a funny answer... I am sure the answer was based on the painting "Judgement of Solomon".

So I explained them my version of why she is happy. Because she loves small luxuries like driking coffee and since she has it, she is happy. If you know how to enjoy small things, you will always be happy.