I can have my oldest niece (6 years) for myself only once a year. My brother and his wife are not happy if I ask to have her, so I just don't (except for the Santa Claus carnival).
I was bitter about it, now I am not any more.
And that's why I appreciate my dear cousin even more - she lets me have her 4-year-old daughter whenever I want. Last Saturday I spent some lovely hours with the little one visiting my best friend and her two kids. The visit reminded me how lovely my weekends would be if I had kids. Full of joy, laughter and play.
I wasn't bitter about it either. It is what it is.
I appreciated lovely last Saturday.
And I also appreciate today. I just returned from a long walk in the nature.
I think it is sad that your brother and his wife won't let you have your niece more often!! I would think it would be a joy for her, and a break for them?! I'm very sorry.
ReplyDeleteDo your brother and his wife not see your offer as what it is? A generous offer to spend time with their child, to show her that you love her, and at the same time give them some time off? They - and their daughter - are the ones who are really missing out. Glad you had a lovely time with your cousin's daughter and your friends. Four year olds are adorable.
ReplyDeleteyes, four year olds are adorable.
ReplyDeleteMy sister-in-law is very possessive. She can not understand that love is not limited. If her daughter loved me (she doesn't, since she never really had opportunity to have a relationship with me) it wouldn't mean that she loved her mother less.