I have had a lovely December so far. I had many cosy and nice tea & cake dates with several of my girlfriends.
But some dates just left me feeling empty.
I have forgiven all my friends who abandoned me during the dark years of my infertility.
But forgiving and forgetting are two different things.
I can't forget how cruelly I was abandoned by some and I don't really want to forget.
In my country there is a proverb that says "Only donkey goes twice on ice."
So I guess I will be more careful with whom I will go out in 2017.
Sending hugs. I wish I could have a tea and cake date with you. I know we'd have a good time! And we'd plan some exciting travel adventures for the future too.
ReplyDeletedear Mali, Having a tea and cake date with you would be lovely! I dream of travelling to NZ once. I am not that interested in travelling to countries where I don't know anybody anymore. But I am really interested in combining travelling & discovering new countries & meeting people that are close to my heart!
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Infertility changes friendships and I honestly think that you can never fully get back what you once had when a friend abandons you. You can have a friendship again, but never again the closeness you once shared.
ReplyDeleteI'll join in on the tea and cake date with both of you (together or separately)!
dear BnB, yes, I agree with you!
DeleteI am looking forward to meeting you one day already now!
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Dear Klara, of course forgiving and forgetting are two things. Forgiving means that you can free yourself from some burdens, which is positive. But you don't have to forget everything and expose yourself to hurt several times for sure! It is hard to let friendships go though, I know... Hugs!
ReplyDeletedear Elaine, thank you for your comment and hugs <3
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ReplyDeleteA lot of my friendships have changed too. One in particular was hard for me. I really like what everyone else commented, especially Elaine's thoughts. I will try to remember, "Only donkey goes twice on ice" in the future. For some reason, that saying gives me a funny mental picture. :)
I know... proverbs that are translated from one language to another give really funny mental picture. For me, the funniest was always (already as a child) an expression "raining cats and dogs".
DeleteI think an equivalent saying in English would be "once bitten, twice shy." ;) And I can't blame you... I have relationships that have suffered over the years since our daughter's stillbirth too. I don't really have negative feelings towards any of these people (well, most of them, lol), but I certainly don't feel the same way about them now. And that's OK.
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