Saturday, January 16, 2021

Don't put up with people who are reckless with your heart


First of all: I wish a happy & healthy 2021 to all my readers!

I am attaching a photo of snowman that I built in our garden last week. I hadn't built a snowman for almost 40 years! I had lots of fun. So - who says building a snowman is only for kids :)  It felt weird at first. I had these thoughts - what will the others say, if they see a childless middle-aged woman building a snowman completely on her own?  I decided to just focus on the snowman and I loved building it. So this is my resolution for 2021: find joy in little things.  

Another resolution: avoid people who are reckless with my heart. 

I started a traditional Friday late afternoon Zoom call with two coworkers two months ago. I enjoy talking to them separately. But all three together - it was plain awful. There was only one topic: how horrible the pandemic is for mothers with young kids - since there is so much work to follow online school work. There were sentences like "I am sure that X as a mother will understand..... blah blah blah."  So I stopped attending those Zoom dates - I told them that I would love to talk to them one on one. But Zoom dates are too difficult to handle since they unintentionally hurt me. I know that they didn't understand. But I don't care. 

I told this story to a dear pen-friend of mine and she said that reading my story reminded her of  lines from the song "Wear sunsreen":  "Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours." 


  1. Your snowman is so cute!! I love that you built him!

    I forgot about the song "Wear Sunscreen." One of my sisters used to love that song. It has a lot of good one-liners in it, and I especially like the lyrics you shared here.

    I like your intentions for this year. Find joy in the little things and avoid those who are reckless with my heart. I shall follow your lead! :)

  2. Dear Klara,

    Love your snowman, too! You are just the coolest woman ever :-). I didn't know "Wear sunscreen", but I listened to it now and liked the lyrics. Good for you for protecting yourself and skipping the Zoom calls! Finding joy in little things is important. I'm with you in that!

    Much love from Switzerland

  3. I have to go listen to that song now! But you're right - protect yourself as you protect others. I'm glad you're not being reckless with your own heart either.

    Also - AWESOME snowman!

  4. Now *I* want to run outside and build a snowman! :) lol I'm so glad you did, dear Klara! :)