First of all: I wish a happy & healthy 2021 to all my readers!
I am attaching a photo of snowman that I built in our garden last week. I hadn't built a snowman for almost 40 years! I had lots of fun. So - who says building a snowman is only for kids :) It felt weird at first. I had these thoughts - what will the others say, if they see a childless middle-aged woman building a snowman completely on her own? I decided to just focus on the snowman and I loved building it. So this is my resolution for 2021: find joy in little things.
Another resolution: avoid people who are reckless with my heart.
I started a traditional Friday late afternoon Zoom call with two coworkers two months ago. I enjoy talking to them separately. But all three together - it was plain awful. There was only one topic: how horrible the pandemic is for mothers with young kids - since there is so much work to follow online school work. There were sentences like "I am sure that X as a mother will understand..... blah blah blah." So I stopped attending those Zoom dates - I told them that I would love to talk to them one on one. But Zoom dates are too difficult to handle since they unintentionally hurt me. I know that they didn't understand. But I don't care.
I told this story to a dear pen-friend of mine and she said that reading my story reminded her of lines from the song "Wear sunsreen": "Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours."