Tuesday, November 28, 2017

Letting go

I am currently reading a book written by this author:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alojz_Ihan

I found there a sentence that I just love:
"If you know how to let go, you make room for something new, something that you might never expected nor planned."

So beautiful and so very true! 

I guess I have written more then once that I really like to talk with old people. I can learn so much from them.

In September, I spent a day with an almost 80-year-old lady from Australia and her three children (one of her children is my bloggie friend).  There were moments that it was only me, walking the streets of a beautiful city and talking with the old lady. And she was explaining me how she doesn't need a lot of her stuff so she is giving all away. She gave a beautiful set of cups to one daughter, a vase to another daughter, a painting to her son etc..

This made me think. If you don't have children of your own, whom do you give things?  In that moment I decided that the best solution for me is not to buy unnecessary things.

And in the little house we are planning to build, there won't be any large storage unit.

I just loved Infertile Phoenix's post: https://infertilephoenix.blogspot.si/2017/11/facing-my-stuff-part-ii.html

I met the old Australian lady (and her children) few days after our first meeting. When I arrived, she was just finishing writing a postcard to her priest. And she showed me the postcard where she wrote: "we were in Slovenia where we met my oldest daugther's lovely friend, Klara".

It was touching to see that meeting was not special only to me.




5 comments:

  1. Love this post and your desire to connect with those older than us. I share that trait with you. Speaking of things, I just this evening wrote a post on that very angsty experience of sorting things...xx

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  2. Yes, that is the best plan for me too- not to buy unnecessary things. :) I loved reading about you meeting your friend's mother. And I appreciate the quote you shared.

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  3. What a wonderful quote! It takes some time to let go, doesn't it... it doesn't happen overnight but once you actually can let go, it is so very liberating.

    Wishing you a lovely Sunday!

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  4. Yes, this is a lovely quote. I always feel that that's the key to healing after infertility. If we let go of what we can't have, we can be open to new things.

    As for my things? Well, my nieces and nephews can have them if they want, or my friends or their children. But my things are for me, not for the people I'll leave them to, so I'm only going to have what I love or what I need. (That said, I think I love too many things in my house!)

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  5. OMG, I can’t believe it’s been 3 months since our meet up and visit to your lovely country!

    And mum is still lauding her love for Slovenia.
    She received a Christmas card from my dad’s childhood schoolfriend and he mentioned her writing about Slovenia , in her postcard she sent to him while on holiday. He wants more information from her about what appealed so much. He called it a ‘new’ European country so I’m not sure if he knows about its history….. we spent an hour with our noses in the encyclopaedias today, expanding our knowledge as well.

    Each time I update her on our building project, she asks after yours as well: does Klara have issues with getting things passed through the council; does Klara have building restrictions; have they started building yet? From our emails, it sounds like it’s the same issues at both ends of the world.

    Yes, mum is decluttering, and passing things on to us……..I’ve got the cups – handmade pottery coffee mugs – but they won’t be just sitting in my cupboard. I get them out to use when we have friends over.

    My motto with our collection of things is for us to use it until it’s worn, then we’ll dispose of them. It may also make it easier for whoever gets the job of disposing of our things to decide to toss the worn out used stuff or pass them on to be used again.

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